Views: 414 · Added: 29 days ago
Discipline, I was always taught, means to teach. What you teach depends on a variety of factors. A disciple is someone that follows a teacher and seeks their discipline (teachings). Hopefully the discipline one receives helps them to become, in some sense, a better person.
Why do people crave discipline? I think it's just part of being human. A military buddy of mine, the other day, told me...”Man, I miss the military.” When I posed the infamous question why, his response was very close to... “At least there was a pecking order there. You knew who was in charge and that your ass was on the line if you didn't follow the rules. In our world, the pecking order seems to be disappearing.” So his opinion goes.
I won't comment on if I agree with him or not, but my point is, people in general crave discipline and guidance. Some people are more inclined to be the one guiding and some are more inclined to seek the guidance. Of course, I'm talking from a non sexual perspective here. The point is, there are many people that not only desire, but need discipline and punishment as part of their life in order to feel fulfilled.
Punishment is typically used in discipline as one of many types of methods or techniques for providing that guidance and teaching. By far, not the only way or form. Punishment, of course, is causing an unpleasant sensation within someone in hopes that they will seek to avoid it in the future and thereby be more willing to follow “the right path” whatever that path may be deemed to be by the one doing the disciplining and punishing.
As a side note: I'm all for the “eye for an eye” methodology. At least in theory. If you embarrass me, perhaps you should be embarrassed. (Maybe a spanking in public or something more devious). If you hurt someone, maybe they should be able to hurt you. (Read as spank you). If you lie/swear/talk back, perhaps your tongue should suffer some consequence. (Getting the mouth washed out). If you are late, then you can wait on me. The list could go on. These are just a few examples mind you.
Where things get tricky is in understanding what a person really needs vs what they say they need. Does a person – in this subculture – really want discipline or are they wanting reinforcement? I mean, the moment someone enjoys their punishment it ceases to become punishment and it starts acting as a type of positive reinforcement, thereby actually increasing the undesirable behavior.
If a young lady comes up to me and says “I want you to discipline me” I have no problem saying sure, we start tomorrow. I just question if that's what she really wants. Sure, I have many wonderful methods of helping a person become a better person, but is one truly wanting that or are they merely saying that and their real desires lie elsewhere? If that's the case, they will be greatly disappointed in requesting me to be a disciplinarian and I will have wasted a good deal of time that could have been put to use in some other form.
Honesty. Plain simple honesty. This is what is important. I think everyone knows that. I also think the majority of us try to be honest and that many of us don't really know what we really want.
This is one main reason I love psychological play. Role playing from a deep place if you will. It can be, if done correctly, almost therapeutic while still being enjoyable by all parties.
I liked mother/son role-playing, when I did it, because I lacked a close relationship with my own mother who was excessively lenient at times and whom for a good period of my childhood wasn't in my life. I would enjoy father/daughter role-playing because I've never had and likely never will have a daughter of my own. I get to experience some of the joys and turmoils that can go with it. I enjoy sibling role-playing because, you guessed it, I feel I missed out on that in my life too. These are the deep and very raw and real reasons underpinning my own interests.
Do I get sexually turned on by these scenes? That's an interesting question. It depends. I don't, for example, get turned on by the scenes when in reality involved with them. The old term, fantasy is always better when it remains a fantasy is very true in my case. The scenes serve, as previously mentioned, an entirely different dynamic for myself. I will get turned on sitting back and thinking about the scenes, however. Intent and purpose become important here.
In the same wind, I'm all for therapeutic spankings and punishments. Sometimes, for some people, guilt is a major contribution to holding them back from living the life they want to live and being as successful as they are capable of being, especially as adults. Sometimes a spanking or combination of punishments can do much for the sense of self – release guilt, repair relationships, clean the slate if you will. That is not, however, a licenses for one to repeat the behavior again and again. That's a whole other topic and something that should be watched for. In the right circumstances, a spanking or any punishment can be very cathartic, but again...it depends on a number of factors.
I've gone on for too long today. Just getting thoughts out of my head in this post.
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Views: 482 · Added: 30 days ago
I didnt know that I would feel what I feel now that he and I are not together anymore. I have Not known freedom in a while. But I would like to thank 0ne person on here for our break up! Maybe I will be giving him a spanking for it. He has surly earned it! Since he has not had one in a while.
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Views: 452 · Added: 30 days ago
....there is going to be sunshine, shunshine - heat, heat - less clothing, less clothing - more legs to look at, I sudenly realise that I'm in fact smiling...:-)
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Views: 777 · Added: 31 days ago
... God if I had a penny for each time I read that word in a blog about
DD lifestyle... Dom/Dommes or BDSM...
I need to vent since it buggs me that people keep saying bs like:
...for as long as it's consensual...
Are you kidding me? What are those guys thinking? Doms/Dommes are neither rapists nor bullies! It's not like we point a gun at the sub's head, yelling: "Drop your pants or I'm-a shoot you!"
If it wasn't "consensual" it'd be considered a felony, so please get it through your sculls, once and for all:
It's ALWAYS consensual
(And if you feel like in your case it isn't, call the police, for crying out loud!)
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Views: 625 · Added: 31 days ago
Did you say a bunch of immigrants are Refusing to Assimilate to Your Culture and are Threatening Your Way of Life?
Man That Really Sucks!!! I Know!!!
Views: 688 · Added: 31 days ago
The best of the lot was Jim
'twas a man of both vigor and vim
A real man he was
And I loved him becuz
I learned about spanking from him.
(Rudyard Kipling is now reaching mach speed spinning in his grave.)
The best was Nimal from Calcutta
So nice his mouth would melt butta
Because he ate curry
And was in such a hurry
That dude was one fast, little Mutta
One man from the famed Nagasaki
Spanked when he drank too much sake
I plied him with drink
Brought him right to the brink
Er, what is that thing in your pocki?
An exotic young man from Algiers
Spanked me once 'til I was in tears
"Don't mocks me," he says
As I laughed at his fez
Er, I was drunk on too many beers.
Then I met Lloyd from Jamaica
Whose spankings could make ya or break ya
But he was so slow
Paused after each blow
"Hey, how long is this gonna take ya?"
I was spanked by Leon who was Swiss
For being a snooty Miss Priss
"You damn well will learn,
I come from Lucerne
Where men thrive on vinegar and piss!"
Then an innkeeper who hails from Wiltshire
Said that I was a very bad liar
So during high tea
I was over his knee
Spanked me hard 'til my bum was on fire.
A very tall man, a Watusi
Oft played his CD's of Debussy
To help his ends meet
He paddled my seat
Then serve up grilled bushbok most juicy.
Then, there's Ahmed from Jakarta
So handsome that he stole my hearta
In his Indonesia
They aim to please ya
He'll spank me 'til death do us parta.
I loved the old chap from Punjab
Flamboyant and so colorfully clad
You're no sacred cow
He said with a bow
The best spanking I've ever had.
Felipe who's from Guatemala
Tools around in a vintage Impala
He'll spank you for free
Right over his knee
But pants down will cost you a dolla.
Dashing Alberto who came from Peru
He was as blind as Mr. Magoo
He was more miss than hit
And of course I can sit
He spanked my left arm black and blue.
Now if you really want to be bossed
Pick an Aussie and one that you've crossed
If a spanking is due
It's like a tattoo
On your ass "G'day Mate" is embossed.
So we come to the end of my tale
How I won spankings by vexing the male
It was a worthy Crusade
Through life's penny arcade
Though sore, I'd found my Holy Grail.
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Views: 521 · Added: 31 days ago
I'm not sure exactly why I'm starting a blog here.
Perhaps it comes from the fact that over the years I've tried to have a spanking website and it has always failed miserably in some capacity. I figured I could take all the material that was on that website and put it in blog posts here. If you can't beat them, join them, eh?
Brats Play and Pay was a website (a rather horribly designed website I might add) that I created and toyed around with many years ago. Back in those days I was also involved in Age Play. Something I've not been involved with in a very long time. For those wondering, I was usually in the adult/authority figure role.
Prior to the failed website attempt, but after my age play days, I was involved in writing spanking fiction under the pen names of Master J and, most often, littleJC. I used the same names when I use to hang around a spanking chat room that I can't for the life of me remember what it was called.
This will blog will hopefully allow me to keep some material from the website days and my writing days alive. I might also try my hand at writing some new fiction. I haven't really decided yet.I also have no idea how often I'll post to this blog. That will depend on several factors.
Meanwhile, do feel free to make friend requests, etc. Being a natural introvert, I don't typically like to reach out to people first. I always figure if people want to get to know me, they'll let me know. Yes, I know that can be equally true for anyone and that it takes two to tangle - so to speak. At least now readers are aware of where I stand.
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Views: 584 · Added: 32 days ago
My bff and I was venting about being rejected. Please read my blog and tell me what you think. I am trying to stay positive but being REJECTED by JOBS, & GUYS is pretty had to have a positive outlook on life. I even feel REJECTED by GOD. I know I am not a bad person but I feel I am being punish for being an emotional woman who only wants to be LOVED, PROVIDED FOR, AND HAPPY FOR A CHANGE! Is that so wrong to want?
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Views: 616 · Added: 32 days ago
Let me be whoever you want me to be.
Wielding paddle or strap
Pleasure and pain sure to follow.
Butterflies tumble before leading to flight
A gasp, a struggle, a moan until it is done
Tears of joy, tears of sorrow, exhilaration like no other.
Every day starts anew, a chance to excel a chance to flounder
Which way to turn…toward the pleasure or burn
Our past always fingers the future.
Leading to paths never considered.
May your gasp and your groan ever linger.
A good omen to end gazing upon a crimson moon.
In the end I can be only me, leather in hand or over bended knee.
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Views: 530 · Added: 32 days ago
Well I traded in the Volvo
for this beat up pick up truck
the day I headed out the door
and crossed my fingers just for luck
and baby if you saw me
you wouldn't recognize me anyhow
I threw away the suit and tie
and I am just blue collar now
I always hope that you are well
and hope you're doing fine
and if you were to look for me
try a little further down the line
there's no Italian loafers here
and no Armani suits
just a faded Carhartt jacket
and my worn out working boots
When you're shopping with your sister
spending time down at the mall
could you pick me up a pack of smokes
I like the short ones not the tall
just drop them in a mailbox
addressed to bluer skies
where people live a country life
with simple dreams and simple lives
I've been looking up old friends of mine
Merle Haggard and Johnny Cash
while sitting in a rocking chair
reconnecting with my past
if your lawyer needs to talk some more
or maybe hear from me
he can send me off a letter
posted rural route number three
I guess that's all I have to say
from further down the line
please close the door on my garage
and tell the dog I'm doing fine
and if you were to see me
you wouldn't recognize me anyhow
my hairs a little grayer
and I am just blue collar now
(copyright certificate on file)
p.s. love my truck, miss that dog
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Views: 529 · Added: 32 days ago
It's been so long since I've been spanked. Sigh I find myself laying on my tummy in my yoga pants just hoping someone would come along and maybe give me a whack or two. What's a girl gotta do? Lol what would you do if you were here? ;) lol
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Views: 354 · Added: 32 days ago
Ciao a Tutti! :-)
Bentrovati con il consueto aggiornamento mensile di “Te Le Suono” (www.TeLeSuono.org)
Il mio Audio Racconto inedito
Eh sì, erano ormai alcuni mesi che restavo “In silenzio”.
Non preoccupatevi, nessun problema alle corde vocali, ho solo preferito aspettare che i tempi fossero maturi per realizzare delle registrazioni più professionali. Sono sicura che anche voi resterete entusiasti di “Online”, il nuovo audio racconto, ..io ne vado molto fiera ;-)
Storie degli Amici
Le novità continuano anche nella Rubrica che raccoglie in questa rubrica, infatti V. ci regala un nuovo scritto inedito intitolato “Laura: Battipanni in Collegio” (…e sì, se ve lo chiedete, il nome del personaggio è stato ispirato dalla sottoscritta :-) )
Avevamo lasciato Martina e Serena, le protagoniste dei racconti di Mamma Severa a fare i conti con la loro bocciatura di fine anno, in questo nuovo racconto (inedito) ci racconta come procedono le vacanze per le due amiche del cuore.
“Il Dizionario della Sculacciata” di Pablo, continua ad arricchirsi con nuovi termini e spiegazioni.
Ultimi giorni per votare il sondaggio “Il posto ideale per una Sculacciata Estiva”, la “location” che per il 31 Luglio avrà accumulato più voti sarà protagonista del mio prossimo racconto (o audio-racconto?) di Agosto.
Vi ricordo che penultimo tasto sulla barra di destra permette di iscrivervi agli aggiornamenti del sito, un modo semplice e veloce per essere sempre aggiornati sulle novità di “Te le Suono”. Ovviamente, come indicato anche nell’apposita pagina, gli indirizzi e-mail verranno utilizzati esclusivamente per inviarvi gli aggiornamenti sul sito, niente spam o cessione dei vostri contatti terzi.
Buon Ascolto, Buona Visione e Buona Lettura a tutti!
Ci risentiamo il 25 Agosto con i nuovi racconti !
…Nel frattempo, non mancherò di segnalarvi delle “News” interessanti sul Blog.
Views: 501 · Added: 32 days ago
I went on a summer excursion
That was meant to be a diversion
I wanted a man
With a ham for a hand
To spank me, that's NOT a perversion.
The first was a fair lad from Norway
So handsome there in the doorway
"I've traveled so far"
So he said, " Ya, ya"
That spanking was no shade of grey!
The next, a bullfighter in Spain
Whose morals went right down the drain
He snorted and paw'd
As he spanked my ass raw'd
A brahma delivering pain!
The Italian, he came Venice
Said, "Madam you are a menace"
So in St. Peter's Square
He laid my ass bare
And delivered a most grievous penance.
And Jacques who came from Paree
He spanked while munching on brie
At la tour Eiffel
He spanked my ass well
Mon Dieu, OMG, holy gee!
The sweetest young man from Hong Cong
Would spank at the sound of a gong
So I kept on ringin'
'Til my ass was stinging
Fifty whacks and still going strong.
The last was young man from Cork
Admittedly, he was a dork
A shy lad I'm told
He spanked with a brogue
So I headed back to New York.
So if you go on a world tour
You'd best be very sure
To remember my ditties
And stop at these cities
Unless you're a virgin most pure.
Views: 498 · Added: 32 days ago
not in the mood to go to bed tonight.... tomorrow's my birthday and my brother isn't here to be with me on it.. i don't want to celebrate it at all.. i don't want to think about it.. and on top of this, i've lost all motivation.. i even failed my pharmacology final exam.... i didn't study at all.. i've gotten seriously bratty and rude....
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Views: 489 · Added: 33 days ago
Had a beautiful birthday week and a lovely visit to NC with my daughter. Got to spend some time with my brothers and family. It's always nice to go home. Now bk, to the grind!
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Views: 521 · Added: 33 days ago
Uma imagem bem excitante para mim é a de uma mulher branca, de cabelos negros lisos e bem longos, olhos verdes, com mãos e pés bem bonitos, usando uma camiseta branca e uma saia longa vermelha escura, usando uma pulseira preta na mão direita e uma tornozeleira preta no pé esquerdo e usanado chinelos pretos, de preferencia Havaianas Top e com as unhas das mão e dos pés pintadas de vermelho, olhos retocados com lápis preto e usando batom vermelho.
Imagine uma mulher dessa dentro da sua casa.
Ela te pega pela orelha, leva você até o quarto, tira o chinelo do pé e manda você tirar as calças se deitar na cama.
Então ela dá começa a dar chineladas pra valer no seu bumbum, fica batendo com toda a força por no mínimo 5 minutos seguidos sem parar.
Ela dá chineladas rápidas e bem fortes, deixando a bunda super vermelha.
Depois que ela se cansar de dar chineladas ela coloca novamente o chinelo no pé e manda você continuar deitado quietinho.
Aí ela vai até o guarda-roupas e pega a cinta de couro mais grossa e dura que ela encontrar.
Uma cinta de couro preta de 5 cm de largura.
Aí ela começa a dar cintadas no seu bumbum, muitas cintadas, cintadas rápidas e fortes, seu traseiro começa então a ficar inchado com mais de 5 minutos seguidos de cintadas.
Depois ela para de bater com a cinta e diz para você continuar quietinho na cama.
Aí ela guarda a cinta e vai até o banheiro e pega a escova de banho, uma escova de plástico bem dura e com o cabo bem longo.
Então ela começa a bater no seu bumbum com o lado de trás da escova como se fosse uma palmatória.
Você leva a maior surra de escova no traseiro, sua bunda começa a arder e ela continua batendo com toda a força por vários minutos seguidos.
Você sente seu traseiro ficar super quente.
Então ela para de bater e diz que você já está bem disciplinado e que não irá mais aprontar mais nenhuma depois do castigo.
Ela começa a te acariciar e a dizer que te ama que que só fez aquilo porque você foi um garoto muito mal e que precisava de disciplina.
Então você aprende a lição, quero dizer, até a próxima travessura que você fizer...
Só uma observação: "Mulher branca de cabelos negros, lisos e longos" é só um dos muitos exemplos diferentes de beleza pois eu gosto de todo o tipo de mulher.
É muito bom apanhar das loiras também, assim como também das morenas, ruivas, mulatas, orientais, etc...
Views: 393 · Added: 33 days ago
Quando eu estava com 12 anos de idade minhas irmãs já tinham se casado, meus pais trabalhavam o dia todo e eu ia na escola no período da manhã.
Sendo assim eu ficava a parte da tarde toda sozinho em casa.
Como era dificil conseguir alguém para me bater eu mesmo fazia isso.
Minha mãe tinha vários chinelos, uns mais moles, outros mais duros, eu simplesmente escolhia com qual eu estava afim de apanhar, tirava as calsas, me deitava na cama e dava muitas chineladas em meu próprio traseiro.
As vezes eu pegava a cinta também, minha mãe tinha uma cinta de couro bem dura de aproximadamente 5 cm de largura e era muito gostoso apanhar com ela.
As sandálias que minha mãe usava também eram muito boas para apanhar, inclusive uma que tinha a sola bem dura e grossa, chegava a deixar a bunda inchada.
Ela tinha uma sapatilha Moleca também, era muito boa para apanhar.
O mais legal foi quando minha irmã resolveu me dar de presente de aniversário um par de chinelos Rider.
Ela não imagina o quanto eu gostei daquele presente.
Usei muito nos pés e também... no traseiro.
Acho que usei mais no traseiro que nos pés pois eu não gostava de usar aquele chinelo pois achava muito feio, mas para apanhar era ótimo, chegava a deixar a bunda roxa.
Foi bom eu não ter gostado de usa-los pois isso fez com que durassem mais tempo.
Sempre gostei mais de usar as Havaianas Top.
Eu também tinha um par de chinelos Beira-Rio, eu gostava muito de usá-los pois achava muito bonitos mas não eram muito bons para apanhar pois apesar de ter a sola bem grossa eles eram muito leves e as chineladas quase não doiam mesmo que fosse com as calças abaixadas e batendo com toda a força.
No máximo deixava a bunda rosada, não chegava a ficar vermelha e as marcas sumiam rápido.
Me lembro que minha irmã tinha um chinelo Grendha, ela já estava casada mas uma vez ela foi em casa usando aquele chinelo e depois ela saiu de casa usando outro calçado e minha mãe foi junto com ela.
É claro que eu aproveitei a ocasião para ver como seria apanhar com aquele chinelo.
A primeira chinelada já deixou uma marca super vermelha na bunda, a sola ficou bem desenhada, era possível ler a marca do chinelo na bunda.
Como eu já disse em outras postagens deste blog eu nunca desejei apanhar da minha mãe, nem do meu pai e nem das minhas irmãs, minha fantasia era apanhar de outras mulheres, principalmente das amigas das minhas irmãs e também de algumas professoras que eu tive nos primeiros anos da escola.
Continuo tendo este fetiche até hoje e sempre que vejo uma mulher usando chinelos eu já imagino ela me dando uma tremenda surra.
Views: 473 · Added: 33 days ago
I Must Apologize. With All The Drama Recently. I Have Been Constantly Pulling-up My Big Boy Pants So Many Times Now They Wont Cover My AZZ..Any More
Views: 615 · Added: 33 days ago
I have posted a new photo album. If you like to spank sissies tell me which outfit you'd like to punish me in? And how you'd do it.
Views: 616 · Added: 33 days ago
I honestly don't know what the hype is all about with this "Fifty Shades of Grey" movie that's coming out next year. I also have heard the hype on tv, talking about what people are trying to see from this movie. I got 1 minute into the trailer and you know what I saw......monkeys throwing feecies at one another, because it's a bunch of crap. Marie got half way though the book and just could not finish it because it was making her eyes hut. This whole premise does not in any way depict what a controlling relationship and the whole bdsm/s&m lifestyle is all about. Now with this movie, you throw in a couple of "hot" actors and pass it off as something that could really happen is just foolish. This book/movie is just a gateway for John & Jane Doe, who have no idea what the lifestyle is all about, and by reading this book, takes them to a place where they can never truly go. If we had the time and the funds, we'd come out with a book called "Our Thoughs: Fifty Shades Greyer".