I see this site as a place where people can share a private interest and express feelings in a place where they are understood. I like being able to get personal about what is exciting, fascinating and erotic to me, especially because most people I know wouldn’t understand.
I’m curious how people feel about the spanking fetish, separately from BDSM. I’m obsessed, frankly, with spanking scenarios, I get very aroused over this. I’ve been ashamed about my spanking interest since I was 9 or 10, and all my life since then. Never the less, spanking scenarios remain fascinating and highly erotic for me. Only in recent years have I felt brave enough to reach out to others and share this. I’ve been to a big spanking party, basically a lot of people who liked being seen with their pants down being punished, it was fantastic. I came away though feeling that it’s less important to me to be public, it’s not a major aspect of what excites me. I like scenarios where the exposure is between two people, in a private room, or between a few people. But, I enjoy seeing people who are more “out” about this than I am do what they enjoy doing.
How “public” are you about spanking? Do you have many friends with similar interests? How important is being public about what you are doing, is it exciting to know others can see you spanking or being spanked? Do you like a private room setting with a one or a few people, or do you like being punished outside, or in some other public setting?